well first place i hate those crapy .net solutions as they dont have controls as they should.
But i think it must be a straight way process.
Set Con=Server.CreateObject("ADODB.Connection")
Con.Open "accessDSN"
accessDSN is the virtual name for your database. I hope that's what you need....
oConn.Open "Provider=MySQLProv;" & _
"Data Source=mySQLDB;" & _
"User Id=myUsername;" & _
"Password=myPassword"
You will be assured MYSQL is way better than any other MS product