I wanted my site to be able to have an Mirc chatroom and someone who owns a site that has one says I need direct acess to the server. Dose this mean I have to have a dedicated server? Or am I in someway able to install it on my Shared hosting plan?

It is absolutely forbidden to host an IRC server that is part of or connected to another IRC network or server. Servers found to be connecting to or part of these networks will be immediately removed from our network without notice.